Carey Blakely

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Life during Covid really got me thinking about self-development and what it takes to flourish—and what can get in the way. With Flourish I explore how you and I can live authentically, pursue goals that we stick to, deal with obstacles, persevere, and ultimately thrive. 

To flourish is to “grow or develop in a healthy or vigorous way.” As a noun it’s “a bold or extravagant gesture or action.” 

Let’s grow vigorously and be bold about it!

What are you attracting into your life? (law of attraction)

What Are You Attracting Into Your Life?

The law of attraction essentially states that what you put out into the world will attract back to you because like attracts like.

In other words, if you are single and believe you will never find love, your negative outlook will most likely get in your way and could fulfill your self-limiting belief. But if you think you are worthy of love and you put love into the world on a consistent basis, your positive mindset will likely attract to you what you are embodying and what you seek.

While many people find the law of attraction to be rather woo-woo (myself included at times!), I think there are aspects of it that even the most skeptical people can admit make sense.

For example, when you are in a foul mood and walking down the street, do you find that people engage with you? How about when you are smiling and feeling open?

On days when I hope that everyone will leave me alone, they mostly do. When I walk around feeling upbeat, people smile and say hi to me.

The world mirrors our moods. The mountain range in the distance can uplift those open to inspiration or make those grappling with dark thoughts feel hemmed in and limited. We are engaged daily with this back-and-forth, give-and-receive type of psychological mirroring. I.e., I am miserable and see misery all around me. Or, I am happy and see happiness reflected in the palm trees and sparkling waves of my surroundings.

You’re allowed to have down days and down periods. I’m not saying that you have to walk around feeling on top of the world every day in order to attract what you want. But on the path to personal growth and development, it’s important to be aware of the impact your thoughts, feelings, and actions are having on the way you perceive the world and how you are perceived in turn.

A still from Moonage Daydream, a film about David Bowie / What doors will you open on your path through life? What will you manifest?

As neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart writes in her book The Source, “Life is not just happening to us; we are creating it with everything that we do.”

Swart elaborates later in the same chapter, “If our desires and intention are truly aligned, we can begin to ‘manifest’ the life we want by engaging all our senses in the imagining and visualization of it—saying it; hearing it; visualizing what it looks, feels, smells and tastes like. In this way, our dreams begin to feel tangible to our brain.”

In my newest book, a sci fi fantasy novel called Crossed Odds that is the first in a dystopian book series, I play with the concept of manifestation—albeit in a real mind-trip way.

I won’t spoil any surprises for interested readers but do want to tell you to look for clues about manifestation’s meaning and role in Crossed Odds very early on in the story. There will be a big twist far into the plot line concerning manifestation.

And when you encounter the character Michael, know that his physical appearance is based on Wayne Dyer, a popular self-development author who wrote over 40 books in his lifetime before passing away in 2015. I read Dyer’s book Wishes Fulfilled, which captivated my interest in manifestation. It was his teachings that primarily made me want to play around with the concept of manifestation in a mind-bending way in Crossed Odds.

Oddly enough (or not?), I just noticed that the day I released the ebook version of Crossed Odds in 2022 was one day before Wayne Dyer’s birthday, while the paperback release date on Amazon marks the day of his death. Kind of spooky—and cool—to think about as I write this on Halloween!

“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others . . .”

From the Bible, Matthew 5:14–16

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